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In response to an article I recently reposted about family devotions, there was a comment about the difficulty of doing family devotions when your family includes special needs children. This is a very valid and relevant concern, and one that many families are facing, so I will make mention of a few personal experiences.

While our family currently does not have any special needs members, we did have an 8-year-old girl with severe autism live with us for about a year. I acknowledge that our experience is limited but here are a couple of things we found helpful.

When Krissy came to stay with us…
Krissy was severely autistic with few words, many destructive behaviors, and endless energy. What we would teach a typical child by accident could be taught to Krissy, but required us to break it down into simple steps and have rigorous follow-up. We used this approach during family devotions.

During our family devotion time, we did not focus on Krissy’s understanding but rather tailored it for the rest of our family while insisting that Krissy cooperate by staying quiet and seated during devotions. Starting with short times, we were able to eventually achieve this.
But a quiet child during devotions does not necessarily mean a spiritually inclined child, so we made sure to include appropriate devotions specifically for her throughout the day.

We went through simple Bible Story books, simply read or retold the stories in her language, often demonstrating or acting out the ones we could. We especially liked the Big Picture Story Bible because of its God-centered chronological approach.

During Christmas we used a picture Bible advent book, each day we reread the previous pages and added a new one.
Because Krissy began to read while she was with us, we also had her read the Scripture passage daily until she had it memorized, but even if your child is not a reader just reading it to them or having them repeat it line by line would be wonderful ways to give them familiarity and eventually memorization of God’s Word.

We also took pictures as we acted out Bible stories and scrapbooked them for her to look at over and over. Our thought was that the more stories she knew by heart the more we would have to reference to and to help her pull together. Eventually she would enjoy talking about them with us and we could gradually get to deeper meanings the more she grew in understanding.

If we had it to do over again, I think we would also have started using a simple toddler Bible Story book during family devotions. It would not have hurt the family to listen and Krissy would then have been able to have a more active part not merely passive.

So what would we recommend for families with special needs children if we were asked?

Commit to a family devotion time, lay down the rules for participation and then follow through. This may mean that for a month all you do is try and maintain control. Children with special needs need to be shown, just as typical children do, that we were made for God and that God comes first. If we never demonstrate this for them, even in the smallest of ways such as insisting on family devotions, then how can we hope that they will eventually somehow understand?

For an active child maybe invest in some felt Bible figures or window cling-ons and tell the stories multiple times until they can tell/act it themselves.

Don’t over analyze it, you can grow with the process, just start and as you see different ways it could work better, change.

But don’t neglect the more mature members (dad and mom, etc) in your family. Maybe you could give the child a puzzle, etc, to work on in the same room during the  advanced devotions and then pull them in with one tailored for them.

Don’t feel like you have to have a “traditional” family devotion time, but do make sure that everybody in your family has the opportunity to learn more about God together so that you can encourage each other, hold each other accountable and proclaim with your actions that Jesus is your life.

If your family is like ours, you likely have been looking into what your family will be doing for family devotions in the next year.

But one issue that can cause trouble for family devotions is how to include and apply them for all ages in your family. We have done different things over the years, for example using both an older and a younger devotional, which everybody listens too, this way both ages are fed but everybody has gathered together and everybody has a common knowledge now to work from.

A couple of months ago I read an article on family devotions by Voddie Baucham which I thought had some very helpful points/tips for family devotions with younger children. Take a minute and read it, I hope you find it as practical as I did.

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Dear Friends,
This year we are taking a slight departure from our annual bashing of secular Christmas, to urge you to take inventory on the condition of your children’s hearts.

What if you discovered, quite by accident, that your married daughter was flirting with the UPS man? Would you not beg her to remember the vows she made before God and man? And wouldn’t you feel sick if she laughed and continued to engage in such destructive behavior?

Paul, in his second letter to the Corinthians implored “…I feel a divine jealousy for you, since I betrothed you to one husband, to present you as a pure virgin to Christ.” If your children are to spend eternity with Christ, as a godly parent, don’t you see a need to train your children to treasure Him above everything else?

For all the warmth and joy that the Christmas season can bring, it can also become a cesspool of impulsive passions. Or it can be a season of opportunities, uniquely designed to sanctify your family. The caroling missed because of the flu, the must-have toy not purchased because of a scaled back budget, the annual Christmas pie tossed because the cat sampled it, are all occasions to take a peek into where your child’s affections are. For all the hoopla surrounding Christmas, there is disturbingly little emphasis placed on pleasing the One whose birth we are celebrating, and wholly too much importance placed on making ourselves happy

Samuel Rutherford, a Scottish Presbyterian theologian (1600-1661), wrote “… if you see a man shut up in a closed room, idolizing a set of lamps and rejoicing in their light, and you wish to make him truly happy, you would begin by blowing out all his lamps; and then throw open the shutters to let in the light of heaven.”

This Christmas, may we all remember to whom we are betrothed and set our affections fully on Him,

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P.S. Throughout December we plan to be posting old family Christmas videos, details on our favorite Christmas traditions (including camel bags!) and even a Christmas recipe on our Facebook/blog. If that interests you, become Facebook fans and follow Doodleblog to stay in the loop!